“All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction.”

- Marya Mannes

Pay attention close attention to what is being written here. On your next visit to a club, take the time to notice what the women youre interested in is wearing. Find something of particular interest that you can start a conversation around. Try using her shoes as a conversational item.

Think to yourself, if I was wearing those shoes, what would a person say to me. A person who is interesting, can capture the mind of any person, just by talking to them. Why? The key to stimulating conversation, is the ability to see yourself from someone else’s perspective. Think about it. The next time you talk to a women, do you come across as interesting or just another boring guy.

The following three lessons will help you add some seductive flavor to your bland everyday conversation:

1. Listen and Think Before You Talk

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.”

” Ernest Hemmingway

Pay Attention! It may be shocking to most men, but women have things to say too! What she says can tell you a lot about who she is, if you know how to listen. There is a recipe for seduction hidden in everything a person says and does. Listen to her stories; a good social artist can learn volumes about a person by simply paying attention to what someone says.

- Words are very powerful. When you truly listen to someone, they convey secrets about themselves that an untrained social artist would miss. Each word reveals clues to what a person is feeling or thinking.

- Have a purpose to your response. When you truly listen to a person, you will know what is important and what is not important.

- Don’t voice your opinion without thinking about it first. Ask yourself, “Will my opinion help or hurt this conversation. What emotional states could my opinion trigger?”

2. Have passion behind what you are saying

“Feelings! I don’t go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!”

” Henry Rollins

Be curious in what that person has to say. Respond genuinely with passion. A master social artist knows that communicating with right attitude unlocks a persons emotions. A persons emotions are the core to seductive conversation.

- Ask yourself, “What is this person’s emotional state? What emotional state do I want them in? What can I say to change it?”

- Being aware of her feelings and emotions, will make you stand out in her mind. In your conversation with her, look for pieces of information that reveal her feelings.

3. Complement her purposefully

“The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves.”

” Dame Edith Sitwell

Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has “amazing eyes” wont get you anywhere, because she’s already been complimented on them thousands of times. You’re just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and shell never forget you.

- Each flattering remark should ease the tension and build comfort.

- Do not compliment the obvious. “You have a beautiful smile,” should be exchanged with, “You have a very good sense of style.”

- Flattery should be genuine. Do not make them sexual.

Neil Strauss and the Stylelife Coaches, possess the devices to become a superiorpick up artist and be a conversation guru.